One-on-one work on boundaries

Some things don't unfold well in a group.
A specific person. A specific situation.
A yes you keep giving when you mean no.

See the two ways to work
Joachim Brackx, smiling at the camera, hosting a session on Zoom

Maybe you know this

You say yes, and feel your body shrink.
You feel guilty when you say no, so you don't.
You have no time for yourself, because of everything you promised others.
You keep the peace, and quietly resent it.

A boundary that has no consequences for breaking it, is not a boundary.

In our calls

  1. You tell the whole story, in your own words.
  2. Then we slow down, and notice what happens in your body as you tell it.
  3. That's where the work begins: finding what's true for you, and acting on it.
  4. It's a practice, not a piece of advice.

What changes

  1. You take a moment before you answer.
  2. The people around you start hearing a no, or a question, instead of an automatic yes.
  3. And you discover this was never only about them. It's about your own power, and your agency.
Joachim Brackx, smiling, among golden ginkgo leaves
Joachim BrackxYour host

My story

For most of my life, I had virtually no boundaries.

I said yes when I meant no, and I suffered for it.

The hardest boundary I ever set was with my mother.

For years I tried to improve our relationship. Nothing changed, because nothing happened when my boundaries were crossed.

Then I understood: I had given my power away.

So I set a boundary with a consequence, and I held it, even when that was really hard.

That moment gave me my power back.

Boundaries have been my most important practice ever since, for almost two decades now.

What people say

Joachim carries both: the presence to make you feel safe in any process guided by him, and the tools to help you find the way back to yourself. This combined with the wisdom he carries offers a unique opportunity to dive deep into any topic you feel ready to explore. What I love the most is that he does not 'push you' in any direction but allows for your own truth to emerge.
VessyAfter one-on-one sessions
When most people talk about boundaries, it feels theoretical and distant. When Joachim speaks about boundaries, it feels embodied and alive. You know you are working with someone who has lived experience of what they teach, a deep sense of integrity, and a unique capacity to make even the more difficult parts of the human condition feel approachable, even joyful.
FosterAfter the Boundaries Workshop
Joining the workshop with Joachim unveiled deep unconscious behavior that I have kept for years, without realizing the role I was stepping in.
MarianaAfter the Boundaries Workshop
I experienced how my 'no' really feels in my body.
CorineAfter the Boundaries Workshop
I received tools and exercises to practice boundaries in real life. Joachim held a safe container, and really knows what he's talking about.
TinneAfter the Boundaries Workshop
Joachim is a wonderful facilitator, integrating warmth, humor, compassion and kindness into his workshop. I found the combination of theory, journaling and practical exercises useful in understanding how to better set boundaries with myself and others in daily life.
ACAfter the Boundaries Workshop
It was a wonderful balm of a workshop. The way Joachim facilitated from beginning to end was insightful, sensitive and with just the right amount of knowledge.
RosaAfter the Boundaries Workshop
There were so many valuable things, crystal clear and coherently articulated. Great facilitation.
DoraAfter the Boundaries Workshop
Joachim offered several valuable new insights. The workshop combined guided reflection, clear explanations, and practical exercises in a very balanced way. I left with a deeper understanding of boundaries and more confidence to set and hold them without guilt. Highly recommended.
EstherAfter the Boundaries Workshop
Joachim creates a cosy online environment that makes you feel like you're in the room. With his guidance, I'm learning to express my own boundaries without feeling guilty, and am becoming more considerate towards other peoples' boundaries as well.
MikeyAfter the Boundaries Workshop
The workshop on boundaries offered a good balance between theory and practice, with some of the practical exercises being real eye-openers. Joachim created a safe and supportive environment, making it a valuable and inspiring experience.
IngridAfter the Boundaries Workshop

Is this for you?

It's for you if

  1. You find it hard to say no.
  2. You keep ending up in situations you didn't want.
  3. You're afraid a boundary will hurt someone you love.
  4. You feel guilty every time you do set a boundary.

It isn't for you if

  1. You're looking for a quick fix.
  2. You want boundaries to change how other people behave.
  3. You don't feel like you can function and need therapy.
  4. You're attached to how you behave, and don't want to change.

Two ways to work with me

Have one situation in front of you? Start with one session. Want to change a pattern? Choose the six weeks.

One session · €90

One call of 75 minutes, on one concrete situation.

For clarity, and a first step you can take this week.

Book a session

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Six weeks of practice · €390

Four sessions over six weeks. Four calls of 60 minutes, with space in between to practice.

Between our calls, you can send me one message a day, whenever something comes up, and I'll answer.

For when you want real change: time to practice, stumble, and be witnessed while you do.

Start the six weeks

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Started with a single session? If you book the six weeks within two weeks of our call, they're €340 instead of €390.

The practical stuff

How

Online, in English.

In person is sometimes possible: email me for options.

Time

One session: one call of 75 minutes.

Six weeks: four calls of 60 minutes.

After you book

You book and pay.

I email you to find a time that works for both of us.

We meet online for our first call.

Payment

Secure checkout via Stripe.

Questions

Is this therapy?

No. It's a practice: we work with real situations in your life, and with what your body tells you about them. It isn't crisis support.

What if I can't name my situation yet?

That's fine. Bring what's alive for you, and we'll find it together.

How does the daily message work?

Between our calls, you can send me one message a day, by message or email. I'll answer.

Online or in person?

Online, in English. In person is sometimes possible: email me for options.

Is what I share confidential?

Yes. What you share stays between us.

Do you have a question?

Just email me, I'm always here for you.

Or listen to my meditations on Insight Timer.